How many of you, my dear readers, have habits that desperately wish you could stop? Raise your hands high for me to see! I definitely have many as well, probably enough to cover my fingers and toes 😉
I listened to this wonderful TedTalk during my recent study break that I wanted to share with y’all. Psychiatrist, Judson Brewer, concisely educates us on how mindfulness training can help break our bad habits. What is mindfulness training? Well, it’s basically being aware and cognizant of our mental, emotional, and physiologic states when we encounter our own personal habits. Habits, whether positive or negative, are essentially behaviors/mind-set/feelings that we’ve acquired throughout our experiences to allow us to cope with interactions with the outside world or people. Dr. Brewer discusses how taking a few minutes to analyze these processes will help us gain greater insight into why we resort to our habitual impulses – makes perfect sense, right?!
We’re so used to our habitual actions, that we sometimes forget we’re even doing them. For instance, a few weeks ago a friend of mine contacted me after months of non-communication. Our friendship was an emotional rollercoaster where communication would be good, but when an argument arose, we would not talk for months. When they wanted to start the friendship again, they’d message me and I’d pretend that nothing happened, even though I hadn’t forgotten. This particular instance, I again, responded to the message and immediately said to myself “Don’t do it Danielle!!!!”, but it was too late and the reply was sent. The following day I started to think of all the pros and cons of this friendship – honestly, the cons completely outweighed the pros, so after my own mindfulness training, I messaged the individual that I felt we should no longer communicate. It felt difficult initially to confront the issue – my heart was racing and I had a knot in my throat – but once I got the words out, I felt my body and mind come together. Afterwards, my body and mind began to settle and I felt a flutter of confidence re-surge.
See, the big leaps in life are wonderful and fantastic, but we must also remember the tiny strides that helped us along the way. That life event I described above, helped set my inner tone of how I want to be treated by friend, lovers, and acquaintances. I guess mindfulness training really does work, huh? 😉
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Check out this insightful TedTalk here: