So I was driving along to clinic this morning, listening to my favorite morning radio show. Their conversation gave me a chuckle this morning…so I decided to share it with y’all. They were discussing whether it’s better to have a “whoa-woohoo” vs “ehh-frump” relationship/partner (their terms, not mine 😉 ). There’s nothing like a good relationship chat to wake up the mind.
Here’s their descriptions of the relationships:
Whoa-woohoo – This type entails a partner/relationship that’s more high-maintenance with lots of ups/downs and overall drama.
Ehh-frump – This type is where a partner/relationship is stable, consistent, and relatively low maintenance. (Warning: this does not imply the partner/relationship boring)
Now, I realize both types have their pros and cons, but in the long run, which is better? Is there a right answer? I feel that in our younger years we have a misnomer of the ehh-frump type as being boring and pliable; whereas, we’re intrigued by the uncertainty and excitement of the whoa-woohoo.
While I was driving, I thought of my previous relationships/men I dated and which types the embodied. I would characterize them as the appearance of ehh-frump on the outside with a nice filling of whoa-woohoo on the inside … what a combo! I think back to all the heart palpitations, emotional uncertainty, and seeming stability that permeated these relationships, and I realized how toxic they were eventually.
As I approach my thirties in the upcoming week, I feel a whole new sense of maturity starting to settle in. Leaving my adult 20’s behind and jumping into the real adulthood puts life into perspective a lot. We begin to realize what we actually want vs what we thought we want. I do not believe there’s a right or wrong answer as to what partner/relationship works better – it honestly depends on the individual personalities, wants, and needs.
For me, my personality, wants, and needs work much better with the an ehh-frump type… so bring it on! 🙂
I’d love to hear your thoughts. Happy reading 🙂